Many consider that getting over a break up can often times be more difficult than getting over a death of a loved one. One of the reasons is the latter is final and a person will move on after a strong support base but in a break up situation, especially when someone is spurned, it’s much more lonely and the support is much more scarce.
For many, they deal with the pain alone feeling like they are the only person left on the planet. Unless they make the effort themselves, break up pain can last a long time and in the process, leaves a lasting residue. That is, a layer of resistance is left behind and many carry their issues into their next relationship.
But the good news is, you can beat the pain and beat it quickly and in this article, we present seven ways to getting over break up hurt without carrying the baggage left behind after a split.
7 Ways To Beat Break Up Hurt
1. Pour out your heart in a letter. Don’t leave anything out including the best and worst times you spent together, why you loved them and even let them know how you feel about them now. Name calling is definitely allowed.
2. Don’t worry about what you write because this letter is for you eyes only and will never see the light of day. Once you’ve finished, read it and then burn it. This method helps you release a lot of pent up emotion while the burning ritual defines the end of the relationship.
3. Exchange anything with your ex that they may have and you may still have. Organize to meet and return each others stuff.
4. Any other stuff you have that was given to you by your ex should be turfed out. Do not hang onto it. This will only continually remind you of them. If it’s something expensive then pawn it or if you can, give it away. Also, get rid of any photos you have that will serve as a constant reminder of your past relationship.
5. You need to sort out any financial affairs you and you ex are involved in together. This includes any money owed or any tangible stuff you own together or bank accounts in joint names. This is an important part of the closing ceremony. It’s extremely important.
6. Once this is completed, cut any contact with each other for a minimum of thirty days. Phone calls, email and text messages are included in this. Even agree to avoid favorite hangouts where you’re likely to run into each other.
7. If possible, to get over this period take a vacation, start a new hobby or anything that will get your mind thinking in other directions. This will be hard but it requires plenty of courage on your part to get over a break up. Make the tough decisions and when it’s official that there’s no chance of a reconciliation, the sooner it’s done the better.
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